As the client’s issues are brought to the surface, oftentimes chronic, painful, complex or disturbing feelings and memories can also arise. Therefore clients seek a counsellor’s emotional involvement and realness. It is integral for the counsellor to feel comfortable with the expression of the client’s thoughts and feelings.
For example grief can affect us emotionally, mentally and physically, hence the importance of working through grief. Prolonging or avoiding dealing with this pain can inhibit the grief process. The experience of grief can involve feelings of guilt, shame, fear, anger and rage. These feelings can be suppressed or misplaced causing internal and external conflict and distress. This is often due to family and societal stigmatization of these feelings as unhealthy and demoralizing.
Counselling provides a safe and supportive environment in order to unpack and process various mental, emotional and feeling states.