Relationships like most living things will not survive without nourishment, care and commitment. Another word to explain this kind of reciprocal relationship is attachment.
Attachments lie at the heart of intimate relationships therefore unhealthy attachment patterns can inflame insecurity and dysfunction. Learnt attachment from previous relationships will trigger certain scripts of what to expect from intimacy and attachment. Negative relationship scripts can be based on boundaries that are too rigid or too blurred. Couples under stress destabilise their connection by becoming either the “emotional pursuer” of intimacy or overly withdrawn as the “emotional avoider”. Communication is likely to become anxiety ridden or shut down entirely.
To begin rebuilding healthy attachment I recommend five stages of communication (Devito, 2004):
1. Receiving: hearing the other, avoid interrupting
2. Understanding: learning the meaning of what the other has said, paraphrase
3. Remembering: recalling and retaining
4. Evaluating: awareness of personal judgments and criticism
5. Responding: answering and giving feedback
Communication and self-disclosure in therapy can provide a safe base to allow a person to feel heard, to realise someone is concerned about them and has them in mind. This is crucial for effective counseling therapy with individuals and couples…www.counsellingrelationships.com.au

A psychology teacher once told me that the root meaning of enthusiasm was to live in God - which is love. What does this mean for those that may not believe in God or religion? We are all unique in our beliefs of love and God. However most of us aspire to live the best possible life we can, to be happy, inspired, abundant, joyful, free, peaceful, healthy, in love and even more. 
Of course, human experience from birth is educated with the consciousness, culture and beliefs of the family and environment of its generation. I, like you, become conscious at times of fears, resistances, and blocks as these generally do come up in life. These darker aspects of ourselves are often very threatening and confronting if not expressed and addressed. Dealing with our personal darkness can also be liberating as this process can enable us to unravel what is true for our life, and that which brings greater peace, love, happiness and fulfillment for ourselves and others. A therapeutic counselling relationship, as well as close friends and family can support each of us to explore and understand difficult situations feelings and beliefs. I do not claim to know the mysteries of life and the universe but I do want to support and encourage people to live the best life their heart desires.