PLEASE READ AND INFORM YOURSELF
Here is a link that has evidence based research and statistics on the subject of domestic violence. Through education, personal experience and an open mind we can truly understand domestic violence. Education plays a key role in challenging personal, social and cultural norms. The following information are excerpts I have taken from the White Ribbon’s website.
- National surveys have found that up to one-half of Australian women will experience physical or sexual violence by a man at some point in their lives.
- If men are the beneficiaries of power and privilege in the family, and if this is a constant feature of their experience of fatherhood (and indeed, manhood), then they can come to believe that they are ‘entitled’ to more power than women. Men’s sense of entitlement is directly related to abusive and controlling behaviors. And if men have an expectation and belief that they will be dominant over women – a sense of entitlement – then they are likely to choose behaviors that are violent or abusive in order to obtain and maintain dominance, power and control.
- The reality that men are often motivated to maintain gender inequalities represents a major challenge for the prevention of men’s violence against women.
- Gender inequalities are the key foundation for men’s violence against women, and building gender equality makes a vital contribution to ending men’s violence against women. Men can strive for gender equality in their identities, interactions, and relations.
- Develop new forms of identity or masculinity, which do not depend on dominance or entitlement over others.
- Strive to ensure that relations with women – in the kitchen, bedroom, and the office, on the shop floor and on the street– are egalitarian and just.
- Contributing to the prevention of men’s violence against women requires more than simply being a non-violent man.
It requires an understanding of the factors, which underlie and contribute to violence against women and how these factors are deeply engrained in our culture, to the degree to which they are sometimes not immediately obvious. It requires awareness of how these factors influence our beliefs, attitudes and behaviors – about what it is to be a man and how to relate to others. It requires the courage to change, to adopt new beliefs and new attitudes, and it requires the knowledge and skills to put new actions and behaviors in place.